ANXIETY
Not to silence it, but to understand what it's trying to say
Anxiety is not your enemy. It is, in many ways, one of the most intelligent responses of your nervous system. Although anxiety feels like it's trying to ruin you, what it's actually doing is trying to protect you from uncertainty, from loss, from the recurrence of something that once hurt you deeply. It is one of the most ancient, biologically programmed protective functions we have.
The problem isn't that you have anxiety. The problem is (likely) that you have anxiety about the anxiety. When the brain's alarm keeps going off even when there is no fire, the necessary vigilance itself becomes exhausting, the scanning, the anticipating, the bracing for something that may or may not arrive.
"Stop trying to calm the storm, calm yourself. The Storm will pass. -Lyn Banghart, Md.
My job as a clinician is not to make your anxiety go away. Rather, I work with my clients to understand the story it's telling, the beliefs underneath it, the patterns your nervous system has learned from it, and the places where something truer and more spacious is waiting to emerge.
My work with anxiety draws on Interpersonal Neurobiology, cognitive and behavioral science, and HeartMath techniques; providing both the tools for immediate regulation and the deeper work of understanding what drives the pattern. We move at your pace. Sometimes that means practical skills first. Sometimes it means going straight to the source. Usually it means both, in the right order.
For adults experiencing generalized anxiety, health anxiety, post-cardiac event anxiety and interoceptive hypervigilance, social anxiety, and anxiety rooted in chronic stress or life transitions.
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Anger is a secondary emotion, a defense, armor we put up around the primary feeling underneath." — Edith Eger
Anger
Not to suppress it, but to find the belief underneath it
Anger is not the problem. Anger is the signal. Behind almost every expression of anger there is something more vulnerable: a boundary that was not honored, an expectation that was not met, a fear that something important is being lost or threatened. Anger is what rises to protect those things.
The difficulty is that anger moves fast. Faster than thought, faster than awareness, faster than the part of you that knows better. By the time it arrives, it has already said or done the thing you will spend the next hours, weeks, or years regretting.
The work is not to slow your anger down or suppress it. The work is to get underneath it. To find what it is protecting and why. When you understand the belief driving the anger, the anger itself begins to lose its grip.
My work with anger draws on Interpersonal Neurobiology, cognitive and behavioral science, and a deep respect for the wisdom underneath the reaction. We do not shame the anger. We get curious about it.
For adults experiencing chronic anger, anger that arrives faster than they can regulate, relational conflict rooted in anger patterns, and anger connected to grief, loss, or a sense of injustice.
“In a world of ordinary, your extraordinary mind is a gift.”
ADHD
Making sense of a mind that works differently, and building with it rather than against it
ADHD is not a deficit of attention. It is a difference in how attention is regulated. The ADHD mind is not broken or lazy or undisciplined. It is a mind that is highly sensitive to stimulation, meaning, and novelty, and that struggles to sustain engagement when those things are absent.
What this looks like in practice is a life lived in extremes. Either fully absorbed in something that captures the interest completely, or unable to begin the thing that matters most. Either hyperfocused for hours, or scattered across twenty open tabs and none of them closed.
The work is not to make you into someone who doesn't have ADHD. The work is to understand how your particular mind operates, what it needs to function at its best, and how to build a life that works with your neurology rather than constantly fighting it.
My work with ADHD draws on Interpersonal Neurobiology, cognitive and behavioral science, and practical strategies for regulation, focus, and self-understanding. We look at the whole picture: the patterns, the history, the strengths, and the places where support is needed.
For adults navigating ADHD, late diagnosis, executive function challenges, and the emotional weight of a lifetime of misunderstanding.
Relationship & Couples
Finding the pieces together, and learning how to fit them anew.
Every relationship develops its own language. Its own rhythms, its own unspoken rules, its own ways of moving toward and away from each other. Most of the time that language works. And then something shifts, and suddenly you find yourselves in a rupture about the dishes or silence or time, but it is almost never actually about dishes or silence or time.
The problem is rarely what the argument appears to be about. Underneath the content of the conflict there is almost always something older and more personal: the way each person learned to attach, the needs that went unmet long before this relationship existed, the stories each person carries about what love is supposed to look like and whether they are truly worthy of receiving it.
"The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives." — Esther Perel
My work with couples draws on Interpersonal Neurobiology, attachment theory, and the understanding that two people can only meet each other as deeply as they have each met themselves.
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The Couples work, in this framework, is not just about communication techniques and relational rules of engagement. Those things are necessary but not sufficient. Rather, this work is about lasting change in the relationship which requires something deeper: the willingness of each person to look honestly at both how and with what they show up to the dynamic, and the safety of a therapeutic space to learn how to integrate and heal what they carry.
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Grief & Loss
"There is no life without loss and therefore no life without grief."
~Miriam Greenspan
Grief does not follow a schedule. It does not move in stages the way the books describe, and it is rarely finished when the world expects it to be. It arrives in waves, in ordinary moments in the smell of something familiar, in the reaching for something that is no longer there to reach back.
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And grief is not only about death. It is about any loss that mattered. The end of a relationship. A job that held your identity. A version of yourself you had to leave behind. A pet. A home. A future you had already started to live in your imagination. The loss of health, of certainty, of the story you were telling about your life.
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What we call grief is, at its core, the experience of losing something that was woven into who you are.
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The work of grief is not to get over it. It is to learn to carry it in a way that does not require you to stop living. That is not the same thing as moving on. It is something more honest than that.
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My work with grief draws on Interpersonal Neurobiology, attachment theory, and depth psychology; understanding loss not just as an emotional experience but as a reorganization of the self. We go at your pace. We do not rush toward acceptance. We make space for what is actually here.
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For adults navigating loss of any kind: death, divorce, estrangement, illness, identity, or the quiet grief of a life that did not turn out as imagined.
Most people come to therapy because something on the surface has stopped working. A relationship. A pattern. A feeling that will not leave. And surface work can help. It can relieve symptoms, build skills, restore some measure of function.​
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But there is another kind of work. A work that does not begin with the symptom and end with its relief. A work that asks not only what is wrong, but who you are beneath all the ways you have learned to manage, perform, and protect.
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This is depth work. And it is, in the end, what all the other work points toward.
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How far you can grow outward is determined by how far you are willing to go inward.
Depth Work
The art and courage of Becoming
For those who feel the summons of what desires to be lived through them, and are willing to begin the journey
Your relationships, your sense of identity, your capacity to belong to the world and to yourself , all of it has a ceiling, and that ceiling is set by the depth of your own self-knowledge.
This work draws on depth psychology and Interpersonal Neurobiology, and is informed by Jungian psychology, Gestalt, and Internal Family Systems, approached not as fixed methods but as lenses for understanding the deeper structure of a person's inner life. We work with what is unconscious, with the stories that formed before you had language for them, with the parts of you that have never been witnessed.
This is not the fastest path. It is the most honest one.